(www.neomundo.com.ar fights between brothers are a classic event of family life.) Specialists say it is important to focus on the positive things that parents can do for children, rather than focus on the timely conflict which begins each match to keep the peace.

Laurie Kramer of the University of Illinois (United States) explained that even if adults can reduce conflict, research shows that you will probably find that their children do not have many positive interactions among themselves. “Do parents really want their children are each one in your room and spend their time doing things alone or with friends?” “Most people expect their children speak among themselves, have fun, and support in the difficult moments of life,” he said.

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to achieve this goal, Kramer said that parents can help generate a positive loop. “If the parents like the brothers have fun together, they can organize family activities.” “If the kids are fighting too, can help them to learn strategies to solve problems and manage conflicts”, recommended.

The specialist said that a logical process can be applied to resolve conflicts: “First must be sure that both brothers understand what the conflict, then tell them that each one to express their point of view and then taking into account the perspective of the other.” In turn, both sides give different ideas to solve the problem so that both win. “If a solution does not work then need to try back,” said Kramer.

Specialist offered a series of tips to improve the link between the brothers:

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** help children to see things from the perspective of the brother

** teach them to not assume the worst of his brother or other persons

** show that the problems can be solved

** treat the needs of each child without favouritism

** teach them to use the knowledge they have siblings to strengthen the link and not to lift advantages of its weaknesses

** promote the games, talks, the interests in common and fun

** praise children when they mutually supportive

“help children learn these skills takes time and energy, but soon becomes part of family life.” “In addition, efforts will bring lasting benefits that children develop positive ways of dealing with each other and these tools will be also very useful outside of family life”, Kramer was completed.

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